Hills Couples Counselling

Suite 58, 15-17 Terminus Street Castle Hill.  0406 456 643.

Couples Counselling - Relationship Therapy

Has the spark gone from your relationship?

Find yourself longing for excitement, fun, and companionship?

Are you constantly gridlocked in what seems like a never-ending battle of conflict?

Has your relationship become like a pair of old slippers? Comfortable but dull?

Perhaps familiarity is a source of contempt?

If any of these statements apply to you, Couples Counselling Relationship Therapy may be the answer you've been looking for. 

 

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Relationships can be complex. 

Relationships can be the source of great happiness or alternatively the cause of immense misery.  The dynamics between any two individuals are constantly changing and evolving over the course of the relationship.

Often, what initially excited us or drew us to our partners can be the very thing that years later infuriates or annoys us.

Within the normal realms of any relationship, it's typical to experience highs and lows, peaks and troughs.  Passion can also ebb and flow as the relationship moves from the initial stages of excitement and attraction into a more familiar and comfortable coupling. 

Defined roles within relationships can also alter dramatically with the birth of children, ongoing illness, financial pressures, cultural and environmental issues. 

When some of the defined parameters in an established relationship start to shift from within, previously shared values can be altered creating conflict where harmony once resided. 

When certain maladaptive behaviours start to creep into a relationship, we start to see or experience what is known as Dysfunction.  

What is considered Dysfunctional in a relationship? 

There are many behaviours and habits that can be labelled Dysfunctional in a relationship.  

The list of traits below, illustrate typical* Dysfunction.

More negativity than positivity
Escalation of Negative Affect
Criticism
Defensiveness
Contempt
Stonewalling  
Physical and Verbal Violence


*Based on 30 years of solid research and observation by Dr. John Gottman of the Gottman Institute

What we focus on in Relationship Therapy

There is no one size therapy which suits every situation, however, the interventions listed below form a solid foundation for positive Relationship Therapy.

 

Emotion Regulation
Building Distress Tolerance Skills
Building Skills for Managing Conflict
Building Skills for Enhancing Friendship
Dialogue instead of Gridlock
Turning Towards instead of Turning Against
Collaborative Life Dream Planning
Creating Shared Meaning